HOW DO I COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH FRIENDS, LECTURER AND FAMILY MEMBERS. . .

How I Communicate Effectively with My Friends. .

Firstly, I must know about my friends. Before I start to talk with someone, I will look her attitude and what's she like and what' she don't like. .After that I can choose an appropriate language to talk with her.. Even she is a friends, I must to please them. . Actually, when I talk with someone, I will be so serious even the topic is not serious. .hehe. .so, I have to change it because my friends will scared to share or talk something with me. . When  we talk with friends, we must understand their behavior and we must in a same line with them. . For example, if she is a happy go lucky person, we do not have to be very serious . . but if she is a serious person, we must be careful and do not use much jokes. .Besides, to communicate effectively with my friends, I always support my friends. When she have a problem or any suggestion, I will give it and try to solve the problem together. .I love my friends very much!;) The next is I always appreciate them. . Whatever she do for me and help me, make me happy all the time, I always appreciate. Because we are true friends. .;) The most important thing is, respect. . Even she is my friends, doing all work together,talk about all things without scared, but we always being respect each other. .It's very important in our friendship. .

How I communicate effectively with my lecturer . .

The first thing that i've done is understand my lecturers. . I know that she has a lot of work to do. not only to teach me and friends, she also must taking care about her family and have their own problem at home. . I do not want to disturb her work, and I must try my best doing what I have to do as a student. The most important thing is appreciate . As a student, we must appreciate our lecturer. .although she do not have a lot of time to see and asked for our problem, but she have already give something very precious to us. I'm not very closed with my lecturers like others, because i'm a shy person. .;) but it doesn't mean that I do not like them. The important thing to me is to appreciate what have they do to us. .;)

How I Communicate Effectively with My Family. .

I'm a youngest child. .and I have a very understanding family members. .the way I communicate effectively with my family member is, the first and most important is respect. As a youngest, I cannot do something or make a decision on my own. I have to take the advice from my parents and siblings. I have to respect their advise and guidance. . Even I must follow all their regulation and advise, I do not depressed because I now they do the best for me. .:) Besides, I always appreciate whatever they do for me. . I do not disappointing my parents and siblings with something that they do not want me to do. .

HOW DID I ADAPT WITH THE NEW ENVIRONMENT IN THE COLLEGE. . .

“I can’t wait to start college,” a high school graduate may say. Students who are planning to start college are anxious to meet new people, eager to open their minds to new ideas, and enthusiastic about learning essential skills to succeed. But many do not adapt well to the college environment, causing them to experience something that is very common among new college students.

The truth is i'm stress ! However, I know that I have to adapt, and adapt fast.  I know if I act miserable then I will be miserable. So here are a few ways I’m encouraging myself to enjoy it. That way, I can be happy sooner with my new life and my new surroundings.

On first semester, I "have to" live in a campus. Actually, all my life, I never lived on a campus. But now, I have to. .;( By rights, Living on-campus can sometimes be the highlight of your college experience, but that doesn't mean there won't be speed bumps along the way. Find out more about roommates, hall communities, terms you should know, and the pros and cons of on-campus .

I find it challenging to go from having ample parental support and structure to creating my own structure and self-discipline. With all the fun and temptation to party, coupled with the looser structure of classes, many students find themselves cramming, pulling all-nighters, and struggling with keeping up. In college, it’s important to stay organized. How did I organized?? Here I show you. .

·         Create a Space

As you set up your living space, be sure there’s a quiet space for you to focus and concentrate. If your roommate is noisy or ever-present, that may mean finding a favorite nook in the library or coffee shop to frequent. Otherwise, set up a nice desk for yourself where you can keep everything you need, focus, and get things done.

·         Create a Schedule

When planning your activities, be sure you allow yourself the time you need to study and get work done. You may require more time than you realize at first, so it’s best to over-estimate when it comes to study hours, so you don’t have to pull all-nighters and end up paying for it the next few days.

·         Avoid Common Pitfalls

Why do I feel nervous in front of public and how do I overcome nervouses?

There have been many many studies done on this subject. Numerous doctoral theses have been written on this topic. The basic reason we get nervous is fear. It is the fear of the unknown and there are two possible causes of such fear. The first one is the audience-a group of total strangers. We don’t know how they will react to our speech or presentation. The second fear is the topic itself.

To handle the first type of fear-fear of speaking to a group of total stranger’s-is relatively easy to do. Make a point of meeting some of these total strangers before you get up on the podium if it is possible for you to do so. If not, then try to make eye contact with a few of them during your presentation and convince yourself that these are your friends. Pick someone who has a familiar face, a kind face, a face you can relate to. Someone who reminds you of a friend you know. If you’re able to take either one of these actions, the fear of speaking to a group of strangers world dissipate sooner than you think.

The second type of fear relates to the topic on which you speak it. If you do not know the topic well enough, you are going to be very nervous and rightly so. It doesn’t matter if you have memorized or rehearsed your presentation 100 times before the day of reckoning. You will still feel nervous dep down because if you don’t know your subject, you’re going to be asking yourself this question “Geez… what if somebody asks me something on this topic and I don’t have the answer?” Many speakers have fallen flat on their faces after they’ve given a well-rehearsed presentation or speech as soon as someone in the audience asked them a question that they cannot answer or understand.

My favorite example is this: you can memorize Einstein’s theory of relativity and give a flawless presentation to a group of theoretical physicists at the convention. But unless you know the topic really well, you are going to be nervous and mortified because you know that  you will not be able to answer the first question from the audience.  The fear will never go away. You can have the best speaking coaches in the world coaching you. That fear will NEVER go away.

So the best way to conquer this fear is to know your subject. Instead of spending your time memorizing your speech or presentation, spend the time to really understand the topic and to try to anticipate any questions that may come up from the audience during and after your presentation. Once you feel that you have mastered the topic of your presentation, the fear of this unknown will also dissipate.

One final thought. Never never tell your audience at the beginning of the presentation that you are nervous and you are new at this. All that does is reinforce your lack of confidence and it also makes the audience nervous. They’re going to be sitting back thinking of two things. One – you mean I have to sit through this horrible presentation because the speaker doesn’t know what he’s doing? Or two – Lee’s sit back and see how bad this presentation is going to be and let’s look for mistakes. The truth of the matter is that you may feel nervous but the audience doesn’t really know that you are nervous. We are often a much harsher critic of our own ability than others.

How can i approve my basic knowledge in English?

Learn the basic from a person who is well verse in English. Allot some time, so that you will reap the benifits in your future. The more you go up, the more you will realize the significance of the basic knowledge. So take all step to learn the basic

1. Read aloud and slow any News Paper. Go as slow as possible to understand the meaning behind what you read.
2. You can choose any children books which may contain many Parables and Moral stories. Reading such stories would give you better understanding of the words. This way, you can improve your vocabulary.
3. Prepare your own dictionary with the words which you master every day.
4. Go through this dictionary once in a week so that you will recall the meanings of these words in a better manner.
5. Every time you go through this dictionary, visualize the meaning of those words. For examples : For the word hallucination, you should imagine what the word actually means. This visualization method will make you understand the minute difference between simillar words such as consent and permission.
6. Construct your own sentences using the words which you have noted in your dictionary.
7. Then use those words in your daily conversation with your friends and in your written communications.
8. This way, become sensitive to new words.
9. If you follow this method for the next few weeks, then using new words will become your spontaneous habit.
10. Never hesitate to read aloud. If you are shy to other, you will only be only a victim. So, never hesitate to take initiative.